What if…?

What if we were to witness all that arises in us?
What if we were to simply be present with it, observe it, and let it go?

 

Will you chose to do it?

 

If so, would you let me know your experience?

 

Much love and light to all that go there!

Namaste – Ann

Does Over-Praise Lead to Self-Esteem Issues?

Does Over-Praise Lead to Self-Esteem Issues?

Does Over-Praise Lead to Self-Esteem Issues?

Are you a proud parent? Do you tend to go overboard with compliments? Let’s take a look at parents that over-praise can affect their child’s self-esteem.

14684405_sAccording to an article scholastic.com, “Who Doesn’t Like To Hear Compliments?”

“How “Good Job!” Can Go Too Far
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being proud of your kids and wanting them to know how you feel so they feel good, too. The problem is that it’s incredibly easy to go overboard. “Parents think that by heaping compliments on their kids, no matter what they do or don’t do, they’re nurturing self-esteem,” says Jim Taylor, Ph.D., author of Positive Pushing: How to Raise a Successful and Happy Child. But that’s not how it works.

Self-esteem depends on your internal ability to generate positive feelings about your accomplishments — it’s not something other people can give you. And though it seems counter-intuitive, kids actually develop it by struggling and sometimes falling short when they face new challenges. Nonstop cheerleading can short-circuit that process and trigger a cascade of changes that ultimately erode kids’ confidence.

First, it can lead to that entitled I-can-do-no-wrong type of thinking. “We have a generation that believes you can become rich and successful without any effort,” says Taylor. More concerning, though, is that kids can become hooked on the happy rush that comes with every “You’re so awesome!” (Who wouldn’t?!) Over time, their motivation may come to depend on it. Even worse, they may be unable to achieve much without it. The reason? They have no real proof of their capabilities and begin to doubt themselves entirely.

“Kids may decide: I’m okay only if someone is telling me I am,” says Jane Nelsen, Ed.D., author and co-author of the Positive Discipline series of books and classes. The pattern often results in an intense fear of mistakes. They may think they’ll be perceived as stupid or that they’ll lose friends because of it. “The most hurtful perception these kids often have is that their parents won’t love them anymore,” says Taylor. Cue the stab to the heart.

The Science of Healthy Praise
To see just how quickly different types of praise can affect kids’ behavior and self-esteem, consider this seminal study done by researchers at Columbia University: Scientists gave a group of kids a series of puzzles to solve. The first one was very easy, and afterward, some kids were praised for being smart while others were praised for working hard. Then the researchers gave the kids a choice: Do another simple puzzle or try a more challenging one. The kids who’d been declared smart tended to take the easy way out, while the hard workers tried the toughie. Finally, to gauge how well the kids rebounded from failure, both groups were given two more puzzles — another difficult one followed by a series of simple ones. Once again, the hard workers solved more puzzles and performed better overall.

Here’s what happened: When the researchers praised kids’ effort, they were priming them to be more resilient. Because the kids didn’t expect success to come easily, they felt more confident to take risks. Most important, they didn’t hang their sense of self-worth on the outcome, says Sylvia Rodriguez, Ph.D, Director of Research & Implementation at Mindset Works, an organization that develops educational programs and resources for students & educators based on these and similar findings. All that mattered was that they tried their best.” To read the entire article click here.

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Are You Having a Difficult Time Losing Weight?

Are You Having a Difficult Time Losing Weight?

Are You Having a Difficult Time Losing Weight?

Are you tired of Yo-Yo dieting and still not getting the healthy results you long for? Have you hit a plateau in your weight loss journey? Let’s take a look at common causes to why you may not be shedding the pounds off.

4358459_sAccording to an article at foxnews.com, “Do You struggle with Your Weight?”

“If you’ve tried everything to lose weight – from logging miles on the treadmill to cutting carbs and counting calories – and still haven’t made a dent, it might be time to dig for the root cause of your weight plateau. Here are some common reasons why you may be hitting a wall – and how to make the right changes to shed pounds.

If you’re focusing solely on counting calories and not thinking about the nutrition you’re getting from your food, your body may think it is starving. Your body needs vitamins, minerals and healthy fats to function properly and to keep you healthy. When you forgo nutrition for low-calorie, processed foods you are sabotaging your health and your weight loss efforts. Instead focus on nutrient-dense foods that provide your body with what it needs and you’ll naturally begin to feel fuller sooner, which provides effortless calorie control.

Blood sugar imbalances can often make it difficult to lose weight. Your body converts carbohydrates – whether it’s a carrot or a slice of cake – to glucose, which creates a rise in blood sugar. If the body is flooded with too much blood sugar, the excess glucose is turned into fat. Maintaining a healthy blood sugar balance is important for regulating hormones, fostering a healthy metabolism and helping you lose extra weight.” To read the entire article click here.

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Does Your Stress Affect Your Children?

Does Your Stress Affect Your Children?

Does Your Stress Affect Your Children? We all experience stress and understand that too much stress is unhealthy. If you’re a parent or soon to be one have you considered the effect that stress may have on your child? Let’s take a look at how parental stress affects children. According to an article at forbes.com,Continue Reading

What are the Benefits of an Organic Lifestyle?

What are the Benefits of an Organic Lifestyle?

What are the Benefits of an Organic Lifestyle? Are you still not convinced of the health benefits of organic food? Wouldn’t you only want to give your body the healthiest food on the market without all the added additives? Let’s take a look at the benefits of an organic diet. According to an article at healthyeating.sfgate.com,Continue Reading

How Does Stress Affect the Body?

How Does Stress Affect the Body?

How Does Stress Affect the Body? Are you or someone you know feeling stressed?  Do you know how stress affects the body? The reality is in some way, shape, or form we all experience stressful situations throughout life. While we may not see the impact stress has on the body, it’s important to understand theContinue Reading

Is Your Child Showing Symptoms of ADHD?

Is Your Child Showing Symptoms of ADHD?

Is Your Child Showing Symptoms of ADHD? Is your child showing signs of uncontrollable behavior or lack of paying attention? Do you suspect that your child suffers from ADHD? Here are signs that can help you determine if your child has ADHD. According to an article at foxnews.com, “Symptoms of ADHD” “If your child hasContinue Reading

Does Your Self-Worth Affect Your Children?

Does Your Self-Worth Affect Your Children?

Does Your Self-Worth Affect Your Children? What happens when parents have a negative self-image? Did you know that parents are the main source of a child’s self-worth? Here are key tips on how to raise confident children which will lead to success in their adult life. According to askdrsears.com, “What’s Your Self-Worth as a Parent?”Continue Reading

How to Raise a Confident Child

How to Raise a Confident Child

How to Raise a Confident Child When you talk negative about yourself do you realize the example you’re setting to your child? Want to change that negative self-talk and raise a child that’s confident? Let’s take a look at ways parents are the key to raising well-rounded, happy confident children. According to an article atContinue Reading

Does Your Child Suffer from Low Self-Esteem?

Does Your Child Suffer from Low Self-Esteem?

Does Your Child Suffer from Low Self-Esteem? Are you concerned about your child’s behavior? Do you suspect that it could be caused by low self-esteem? Here are signs that can help you determine if your child has low self-esteem. According to an article at healthychildren.org, “Children and Low Self-Esteem” “What are the signs of low self-esteem? To helpContinue Reading