Children Lacking Self-Control and the Connection with Technology
Does your child have a hard time focusing or lack of self-control? If you’re child spends a ton of time of the latest gadgets, did you consider the connection may be related to today’s technology that children are exposed to?
According to an article at nation.lk, “How Much Time Does Your Child Spend on The Latest Gadgets?
“When I was a kid, I had books, television, radio and neighborhood kids to distract me. Today’s kids are given all kinds of new gadgets that harm their focus and self-control. A New York Times article recently declared that “Steve Jobs Was a Low-Tech Parent”. It recounts a conversation the writer of the piece had with Jobs in 2010:
“So, your kids must love the iPad?” I asked Mr. Jobs… the company’s first tablet was just hitting the shelves. “They haven’t used it,” he told me. “We limit how much technology our kids use at home.”
The writer, who says he may have responded with a gasp and dumbfounded silence, goes on to say that since then, he had ‘met a number of technology chief executives and venture capitalists who say similar things: they strictly limit their children’s screen time, often banning all gadgets on school nights, and allocating ascetic time limits on weekends.’
There you have it. These tech execs must know something parents who give iPads to kids do not know.
Kids need to develop focus and self-control, just like we develop muscles through exercise. In “Focus, the Hidden Driver of Excellence”, Daniel Goleman explains that those who exercise self- control and focus can literally widen their bandwidth for it.
Kids who never get the opportunity to develop focus and self-control fall prey to all kinds of impulses. As adults they’d get in trouble with overspending, addictions, relationship trouble, early pregnancy, reckless driving and obesity. The lifetime study of kids who underwent the famous “marsh mellow experiment”—where kids are told they can eat one marsh mellow when they like or wait till the researchers come back and get two instead—shows that the ability to control impulses at four or five can predict life success, way into and throughout adulthood.
A person lacking in self-control is hardly any different from an animal—impulse driven, lacking in introspection, self-awareness or discipline. No wonder too because the impulse and emotion driven parts of our brain has evolved over millions of years while the more contemplative, cool, top down parts of the brain are a more recent addition.
A person possessed of self-control and focus will go on to achieve excellence. Focus and concentration are at the bottom of mastery—whether in sports, math, brain surgery or any other field. You cannot become a brain scientist or win a marathon or even a spelling bee without it. You cannot become a top model or actress without ability to focus. Enthusiasm, passion or dedication to any pursuit becomes meaningless unless it is coupled with focus and self-control.” To read the entire article click here.
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